Entitled parents belittle grandmother for taking their kids to Epcot while babysitting: 'She was distraught over missing their first Disney trip'

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    0.20 r/AmltheAsshole u/Simple-Band-9096 - 16h AITA for taking my grandchildren to Disney for the first time without their mother and refusing to apologize when confronted?
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    My son made this account and asked me to post this story, because he claims my normal meter is skewed and the internet is going to tell me I am an
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    I recently babysat my grandchildren (5 and 4) for a period of four nights and five days so my son and his wife could attend a wedding in Mexico, and spend a few days on vacation. They approached me since her mother would not be available, and I initially said I wasn't comfortable with that. It seemed like a long time to watch the kids, and she has point blank told me that the woman's family is more important than the man's, so I was irritated I was being asked and not her mother. I will admit th
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    While I had the kids I was invited to a birthday at Epcot and wanted to go. It didn't even occur to me to run it by my son or daughter in law, as I had the kids for an extended period of time and obviously they knew they would be going where I went. My daughter in law had previously mentioned wanting to save up for Disney, but she's said that about a lot of things, and never made me aware it was something super special to her. Also it was Epcot. It's not like I took them to Magic Kingdom and the
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    When they returned and found out my daughter in law was furious and burst into tears. She said I stole one of her kids first and called me entitled. To be honest I didn't react well to being called entitled, when she was the one who had previously demanded babysitting. My son asked me to apologize as she was distraught over missing their first Disney trip, but I declined and asked them to leave.
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    My son reached out again and said I should have asked for something that big, and his wife feels robbed. I know she is a huge Disney person, but it was Epcot, not quintessential Disney and I don't feel I should have had to miss out on a birthday party I wanted to attend. I told my son I am not apologizing for anything and maybe they should think about how they made me feel when they didn't respect my initial no. My son feels like Reddit is going to show me the error of my ways.
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    BulbasaurRanch • 17h Supreme Court Just- I hope your son feels humbled here today. ΝΤΑ They imposed on you to watch their children. You did exactly as they requested. You've done nothing wrong. [103] You are not responsible for your rude daughter-in- law crying. Tears don't make a person right.
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    The only entitled behaviour is your son and daughter-in-law. They guilted you into accepting something that you expressed you were not comfortable with, and then got upset in how you took care of their children for them. You shouldn't have to forgo your plans because they did not secure childcare before going on vacation. Again, you've done nothing wrong. She deserves no apology. She can pout and whine all she wants- she was the one who put you into an uncomfortable situation. She never said not
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    mobiuscycle. 15h Partassipant [1] Very much NTA. DIL is being selfish, IMO. When my kids' grandparents, either side, have provided my kids opportunities to experience cool things, I've been. really grateful that 1) my kids get to do those things and 2) my kids get to make wonderful memories with their grandparents that they will cherish their entire lives. My kids have amazing memories of their grandparents leading them on fun adventures to theme parks and historical places (some of them I would
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    The most important part? One of those grandparents has now passed and those memories are absolutely precious to my kids. Those memories of my kids being loved by and important to many people in their lives are far more important than any selfish desire I have to experience all the things with my kids personally. DIL needs to get over herself and realize that her kids are separate people from her. Their experiences don't always need to be about her experiences. In fact, it's good for their emotio
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    Carla_mra 15h I so love this comment. I feel the same, it is super important let the children enjoy their grandparents because there is no other relationship like a loving Grandparent, and unfortunately sometimes they passed when the child is young. Also, (unpopular opinion here) I don't understand the stupid thinking of need to experiment all the first times in your child. They are their own person and is impossible to do so. Cherish all the time you have with your children but let them enjoy l
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    KeyFeeFee 15h ● You'd be shocked on parenting forums how obsessive parents get about firsts. "My MIL is HORRIBLE!! She was watching my baby and let her try carrots, but I AM HER MOM AND I WANTED TO BE THE FIRST TO GIVE HER CARROTS!!" I genuinely find it quite bizarre. 42.1k
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    StrawberryKittyKat4. 17h Yeah, NTA. I'm guessing you paid for the kids to go to Epcot & fed and paid for any other excursions during those days?? And all in the name of trying to spend some fun quality time with your grandkids. I know it was probably a lot of work, but you enjoyed it! So instead of a SUPER GINORMOUS thank you for the money you spent & time with the kids, allowing the parents to go away on a vacation without the kids, you're called an entitled & demanded an apology?? to the N O!!
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    trinitygoboom 16h ● This is why I dislike "Disney adults" they're usually unstable. I like a few movies, and I'll definitely take my kid to Disney one day, but this is insane. The mom cares more about her experience than the kids. My mom couldn't afford to take me to anything like that when I was little, and she didn't throw a fit when my brother and sister took me. 43.3k
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    StrawberryKittyKat4. 16h And still I'm actually a Disney Adult! wouldn't have cared like I said. She also specifically said it wasn't Magic Kingdom, and if mom loves Disney THAT much, should have taken the kids by now. Under 2 or 3 is free from what I remember. So it could have been cheaper if she took them years ago! 4 1.2k ...
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    jasperjamboree . 16h Aficionado [10] Since your son was so insistent on you posting this to Reddit and assume you would be shredded, boy is he wrong to assume. I do hope he takes the time to read each and every one of these comments. He and his wife are incredibly entitled to force the babysitting duties on you because they think "the woman's family is more important than the man's," or whatever stupid logic that is. You told them no. That should have been enough. Then your son decided to use em
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    Liquid Rubys 16h ● I'm willing to bet his version of the story is very different than OPs. The entire post comes off as someone telling less than half a story, but obviously that's just a guess on my part. ... 1.2k
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    Tempting Penguin369. 16h Craptain [162] INFO: How close do you live to EPCOT? I assume close enough to take a day trip with two small children and come back the same day? Do your son and DIL also live near you? Reply 41.7k ↓
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    Simple-Band-9096 OP 16h ● I live two hours and they live about three, but don't want to do disney as a day trip and think they would need 4-5 days ... 41.7k ↓
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    Tempting Penguin369 • 16h Craptain [162] I live two hours Is this common? Adults driving two hours to go to a party at Epcot? It costs $109 for adults to get in. Per the Disney website, you can't just go in and have lunch for free; a day pass is required. Something's not adding up here. . . . 388
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    MamaTumaini • 16h I have driven 4 hours for a day trip there. Yes, people do it. 2.6k

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